About You / About Me
This work is difficult, delightful, taxing, and profoundA little bit about the people I work with, and a little bit about me.
About You
Is this you?You're working in a public setting. As much as you may love it—or the idea of it—you're also discovering how weird this work is, and how it impacts your personal life.
Maybe you’ve developed a little anxiety or hypervigilance when going to the grocery store, a restaurant, a park, or your gym. Perhaps your life has changed so much that people will be waiting to talk with you or take photos. You’re wondering where you can find trusted colleagues, friends, or spiritual community.
Even if people told you that your work could bring big challenges as well as great satisfaction, you’re learning that the work you do makes your interior life more difficult to nurture. To be genuine in your work requires that you nurture your innermost self, making sure you have fullness enough for yourself and your audience.
Now, you're trying to figure out how to do your public work, be a private person, and feel whole.
There are principles and practices that can help you understand this difficult, delight, taxing, and prfound work. You need to:
Understand
You need to deeply understand your self: your habits, patterns, and needs.
Discern
You need to discern where you have limitations and possibilities so that you can make choices, set boundaries, and find satisfactions.
Integrate
You need to learn how to manage the tension of public intimacy and private life, integrating it all into a healthy whole now and in the future.
You’re exactly the kind of person I work with.
The people who work with me come from a wide variety of backgrounds and types of jobs. Those who get the most out of working with me are curious, introspective, and ready to do the learning, rather than expecting a simple solution.
Figuring out how to be a healthy and successful public intimate isn’t about living someone else’s answers—it’s about understanding yourself, what you are able to share, and what you need to thrive.
About me
This is meI’ve trained for and worked in these kinds of roles for nearly 40 years, starting my performance training very young and eventually figuring out how I can have a life that is satisfying and whole.
My research and study have given me unique insight into how people both share themselves in public and build healthy private lives. For 20 years I’ve been a spiritual director for seminarians and clergy, business leaders and coaches, actors and sex workers, supporting people in their personal and professional lives.
~40
years in public facing roles
20
years of congregational and community leadership
20
years as a spiritual director
Education
- PhD, human development, focusing on public intimacy
- DMin (Doctor of Ministry), spiritual formation for clergy
Then & Now
Once an actor, advocate, singer, singer and harper, bellydancer, and storyteller. Now a clergyperson, public speaker, and professor (who still dances and makes music for my own joy).
Like most of us, I am many things
scholar · teacher · author · coach · spiritual directorgardener · artist · forest-dweller · weightlifterclergyperson · board member · advocate · public speaker · partnerI am more than one thing at a time.You are, too.
I am a public intimate and a support person for other public intimates. Let’s find out if I can help you find your ability to be whole.
Where would you like to go from here?
Courses & Cohorts
Learn from me
Coaching, Consulting, Speaking
Work With Me
Writing and Talks
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